It’s a journey through four months of days from July 1, 2014 until he was stillborn on October 30, 2014 and then eight months of weeks unpacking our grief. Written in the present tense, these daily devotions of lament and learning are packaged in this book for others’ benefit as they journey through the loss and grief.
Sarah revealed the horrible news to Steve when he returned home with her flowers at 5 p.m. We were immediately sorrowful, yet totally vulnerable in the midst of a mystery.
And it is in this mystery that Steve and Sarah and Nathanael take this journey. Even though they are surrounded by loved ones, it is a journey that all three must take alone.
In order for one’s journey to
be fruitful one must accept God as his/her ultimate Guide, and recognize His face: that smiling Shalom of God transcends the difficulty, making the reality surreal. As we turn inconsideration of God turning His face toward us, we see the liberty He is giving us in circumstances otherwise totally de-liberating. Of course, the world cannot understand this spiritual reality; the gifting of God that we call faith.
There were many steps to take on this journey: realizing there are other parents and other unborn babies that have endured what Steve, Sarah, and Nathanael have endured, while recognizing each individual's pain, though similar, is different from someone else's pain.
Through this curiosity and wonder we develop a mastery, which becomes a childlike faith allowing us to go into fearful territory without being disabled or disempowered. This takes down fear and gives us the ability to problem-solve, and when we problem-solve we create strategies for courage, as well as a plan for success.
of life can easily be swept over, but as we reflect we enhance the felt experience and God can be heard to speak through insight.
Steve Wickham goes even further when he writes: It might seem unfair, but a soon as we understand we are in the right place, right now, then life has joyous acceptance about it in the present. . .
The blessing involved in trusting God to the degree of accepting just the very circumstance we experience just now is we are at peace, always. . .
Life requires of us an acceptance of our reality. We are blessed to accept what we cannot change. We are right where we ought to be. But that doesn’t mean we can’t improve our lot.
To believe we are right where God wants us to be does not mean we or He desires for us to go through these atrocious things that are affected by freewill, poor choices of others, unlawful activity of others against innocent people, the forces of nature, the forces of medical science, or the sin of mankind. We believe in the power and in the promise of the divine movement of your hand; but we will not assume that this is Your will in our circumstance. We surrender ourselves to You, afresh.